A breakup is a very emotional situation and it's only natural for accusations to be made by both sides. But words said in the heat of an argument should not be held against the one saying them forever. It takes more energy and effort to stay angry than it does to forget and forgive. If you have been trying to contact your ex boyfriend, you are probably ready to forgive him. However it might take a little more to get your ex to get into the same forgiving mood.
Emotions are usually triggered by psychological factors. Why do you think you get hungry when you get a whiff of your favorite food? Why do you were an exotic perfume? These are all things that are designed to attract and the reason they attract is because they make the mind think in a positive way. But, when you are trying to get your ex boyfriend to talk to you before he is ready you are causing a negative reaction.
It doesn't matter if your attempts to contact your ex is caused by wanting to apologize or get revenge, the result will be the same. Your ex boyfriend will pull as far away from you as possible. How can you change his attitude and arouse his desire again? You have to do the things that make him desire you again. The best way to do that is to get inside his head and change his attitude and the best way to do that is using male psychology.
The chances are that when he broke up with you, your ex boyfriend thought you were still very much in love with him. When you constantly try to contact him, you are confirming those thoughts. Now, think of your favorite food again. What if you thought there would be a scarcity of it? You would go out and buy as much of it as you can afford. Smart advertisers announce that only a few of a certain item is left and people will turn out in droves to buy it.
When you use the male psychology of making yourself scarce, your ex boyfriend will feel an increase in his desire for you. By allowing him to think that you do not want him anymore, he will see how much you mean to him and begin to miss you. It is in a man's genes to want to get back what they have lost and if he can't contact you, he will become as desperate as you were.
When you get your ex boyfriend in this frame of mind you will be pulling him back instead of pushing him away. In his mind you will become the perfect woman for him and he won't be able to imagine his life without you. However once you get your ex back, your job is not done. You can never let him be too sure of you and always remember that too much of anything becomes boring. That means you have to always be pulling him toward you and never do the things that will push him away.