When you have someone who is suppose to be your confidante and best friend cheat on you, it is painful to say the least. I suppose you wouldn't be reading this unless you or someone you know is feeling a little insecure in their relationship with their spouse.
How Can You Know For Sure?
That seed of nagging doubt can ruin a relationship and it needs to be dealt with, but how can you know whether or not he or she is really cheating? For starters you should look for these 5 top signs that your spouse is cheating on you. They are listed below in reverse order with the fifth one being the top sign that your spouse is cheating on you.
The first sign is the one you are experiencing right now. Unless you are a paranoid person who has felt that every one of your partners in the past has cheated on you, the fact that you have these feelings is the first sign that he or she is being unfaithful. Something is tipping off your subconscious mind that things are not quite right.
The attentiveness of your spouse toward you has suddenly decreased. As time goes by, even a healthy relationship changes. The early burning passions die down, but they are replaced with a mutual respect and understanding that is even more precious than the early passions of romance. However, if there is a rather sudden shift in the attentions you are used to receiving from your spouse, this could be a sign that some straying is going on.
Your spouse is suddenly preoccupied with their personal appearance and it isn't because of you. If that schlub that sits on the couch looking like Michael Moore everyday suddenly starts losing weight, dressing up and smelling great for no apparent reason, it could be that he has found other interests than his marriage. If your wife, who has complained for eons about “being fat” suddenly does something about it and it isn't for you or your marriages sake…well you get the idea.
Your love life drops to zero. This is a sure sign that your spouse has found another pasture to feed in. I must note here that in rare cases the opposite can happen because your spouse is fantasizing about the other person, but this is rare.
The top sign that your spouse is cheating on you is suspicious activities and strange phone calls. If your spouse suddenly has to start working late or on week-ends and he or she goes into another room when they get a phone call. Then it is time for alarm bells to start ringing.
It should be noted that any of these signs by themselves could have other reasons besides cheating, but several of them taken together is a pretty certain indication of cheating and there are sure fire ways to find out.