You didn't intend to do it and you regret it, but that won't make it go away. You cheated on your boyfriend and he dumped you. If this is what you are thinking, you are only thinking of yourself. But what about your ex boyfriend? He is the one who was hurt by your actions and it won't be easy for him to forgive and forget your action. However, you love the guy and want him back.
Getting your ex boyfriend back after you cheated won't be easy, but it usually can be done. Love is a powerful emotion and it can heal many wounds. However you must be careful not to make the pain he is feeling any worse. If you are constantly trying to get him to talk to you, it might be the worst thing you can do at this time. His wounds will take time to heal and every time he sees you or hears your voice, he is reminded of your cheating.
So how do you get your ex back if you can't communicate with him? You have to let time begin to heal his wounds and go about showing that you have learned your lesson a little at a time. Don't think it will be easy because you have got a real job to do. He is going to be frustrated and angry and if you want him back, you have to prepare yourself for some verbal abuse.
Stop and think of how you would feel and what you would do if he had cheated on you. You wouldn't want him around you for a while, right? That means that you have to avoid any contact with your ex for a few weeks at least. He needs time to get over the feeling of your deceit and you need to get over your feelings of guilt. Respect for each other is an integral part of any relationship and right now his trust in you has been shaken.
If your ex boyfriend still loves you, and he probably does, after a period of being left alone, his anger will somewhat begin to subside and then he will want answers to some questions. During the time apart, you should get yourself ready to answer those questions. Since honesty is always the best policy, being honest about what happened will go a long way toward making a reconciliation possible.
The truth usually hurts and in the case of cheating it will cause both of you pain, but you can't hide behind lies. Sooner or later your ex boyfriend will learn the truth and if he learns that you lied, he will never trust you again. So, put it all out in front of him now and get it over with, once and for all. The way things stand at present, you have already lost him, so telling the truth can only make things better.
Everyone is not the same. Some people are more forgiving than others and some are more vindictive. But, where true love is involved, it will find a way. With patience on both sides, things can be worked out and you will enjoy a long and happy relationship with the man you love.