Love is never easy and when breakups happen, as they sometimes do, it's difficult to find the right tips to get back together. Unfortunately for most of us, our hearts lead us in the wrong direction making it more difficult to set things straight. The good news is that one tip stands out among the rest as “the right stuff.”
What your heart tells you is to overwhelm your ex with your presence so that he or she will suddenly remember how much love the two of you shared and welcome you back with open arms. The problem with that though is that you become an annoyance to them or a constant reminder of a failed relationship. They won't be able to look past that because of your constant presence.
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What should you do instead?
Now, hear me out on this because it's going to sound a little crazy at first. You should do nothing.
That's right. Nothing.
NO calls. No visits. No text messages. No driving by the office or house to see if your ex is there. Do nothing.
I know you're on the other side of screen wondering how this works. What kind of tips to get back together are these? It really is a simple concept though. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. This is age old wisdom coming into play but it's an accurate assessment of the way things are.
When you're always present by visiting, calling, texting, or driving by your ex doesn't have the opportunity to really miss you. Change your tactics and become conspicuously absent from the life of your ex and you change the whole dynamics of your efforts to win your ex back. This works worlds better than most tips to get back together you'll find anywhere.
Establish a deadline or specific period of time to allow your ex to experience life without you. Use this time to work on making yourself the person you want to be and the person you know will make your ex happy.
Once the deadline arrives leave your ex a message that you'd like to meet because you have something you want to give him (or her as the case may be) to think him for what he's done for you. Don't give any hints over the phone about why you are thanking your ex (though you better have a valid reason when the time comes) or what you plan to give your ex to show your appreciation and then leave the ball in his court. Curiosity and self interest are both very powerful motivators. Let them work in your favor. That may very well be one of the best tips to get back together with your ex you'll ever receive.