After a breakup, you want to stay close to your ex boyfriend as possible and let him know how much you need him. Then you hear that to get him back, you should ignore him. That doesn't seem to make any sense because how can you convince him to makeup if you are ignoring him? In fact most of the advice you find seems to be the opposite of what you think you should be doing. The reason you feel this way is because you are thinking with your heart and not your head.
Another reason you think that ignoring your ex boyfriend sounds crazy is that you are not familiar with the way your ex boyfriend's mind works. Every action you take has a psychological effect on your guy and you can raise his desire for you to a fever pitch by ignoring him. Right now you are looking at things from the perspective of a woman and think that the only way to get your ex back is by keeping in contact with him. But male psychology can be very different. Getting your ex boyfriend back will require you to push his emotional hot buttons in the right way and one of the most effective ways is ignoring him. This is because you have to work on his ego and pride in a way that makes him think he can't live another minute without having you back in his arms.
If you think about it, you played hard to get in the beginning and if it worked then, so why won't it work again? This is the same guy so ignoring him should make him chase you again. Having an ex girlfriend ignore him, pushes an ex boyfriend's emotional hot buttons to the limit. His buddies start making fun of him by saying, “Are you sure she didn't breakup with you?” Ignoring him also puts you in control of the breakup by showing him that you can get along just fine without him. He was alright as long as he thought you wanted him back, but now he is feeling lost and lonely. He might try to shake off this feeling of loss for a while, but in the end there will be only one way to cure it and that will be to get you back. Your ex boyfriend will not only want you back, but he will do anything to have you in his arms again. That includes forgetting his pride and ego.
This is why ignoring your ex boyfriend works so well, it gets to the very core of his thinking by making his emotional hot buttons work overtime. He begins to miss you and realize that it was the biggest mistake of his life when he broke up with you. Almost from the minute you start ignoring your ex boyfriend his every thought will be to get you back.