A relationship breakup is a difficult time for all involved. It's easy to become trapped in a cycle of despair, wallowing in all the possibilities and letting yourself become burdened with negative feelings. Breaking that cycle of sadness is key, and one of the most important steps in healing from a breakup is being proactive in your approach. The following is a list of some things you can do that will help you to get over a breakup and move on with your life.
Keep busy – It sounds simple, but keeping your mind busy and distracted can prove difficult after a breakup. It's easy to become depressed if you're bored and lacking any activity, so find something to do. Read a book, go for a hike, or simply take yourself out for a nice lunch. If all else fails, catch up on work or get ahead. Basically, do something that will benefit you. If you fill your days with activity then you'll find that your mind has less time to wander, and eventually you'll become more immersed in what you're doing rather than what you could have done.
Try new things – Have you always wanted to learn how to dance, improve a second language, travel, or conquer a certain recipe? There's no time like the present, especially when you find yourself with more free time on your hands than you've had in months. Maybe your ex held you back from doing something that you really wanted to achieve and now that you're free of them, what better way to get over a relationship breakup than to do something you've always wanted.
Spend time with your friends – When you're in a relationship, it's often easy to cut off the outside world in favor of your other half. Now is the time to reconnect with old friends and repair friendships that may have suffered due to your relationship. Hang out with those you value most, you're likely to find that they will have valuable insight on your ex that can help you to get over them.
Never turn down an invite – This is a particularly positive approach to combating loneliness. Think of all the times you said: “Sorry, I can't make it tonight, I have plans with my boyfriend” and make a vow not to turn down any opportunity that may come your way. Even if it doesn't sound like your thing, you never know what you'll end up enjoying. Plus, forcing yourself to be outgoing is a great way to meet new people and widen your social circle.
Don't dwell on the past – Most importantly, think positively. Put away any mementos that you may be holding on to, and ensure that you and your ex return all of each other's belongings. It's alright to hold on to happy memories but you can't let them consume you. Look forward to the future and you'll soon find that you're enjoying the single life again.