Valentine's Day is fast approaching. Normally you look forward to this special day but this year is very different. This year you're not with your girlfriend. Since you two broke up you've probably been searching for ways to get her to come back to you but none of that has worked, has it? You don't want to even think about trying to get through the most romantic day of the year without her, but you have to face reality. Instead of constantly mulling over what you should say and do on Valentine's Day to rekindle the lost love between you two, there's a different approach you should be taking. Surprisingly, if you remain silent and distant between now and then you may actually get her attention.
Why You Need to Ignore Valentine's Day This Year
As hard as it is to look past all the roses, champagne and chocolates that are strewn throughout stores at this time of year, you have to do your best to do just that. You must muster up all your inner strength to completely avoid the fact that Valentine's Day is almost here. Naturally, all the commercials on television that suggest that this is the ideal time to buy your special someone a piece of jewellery are hard to ignore. However, if you can get through this one holiday without folding to the pressures around you, you'll be proving a very important point to your ex girlfriend.
Your ex girlfriend is undoubtedly going to be waiting for you to contact her around this time of year. She's assuming that since you've made it very clear that you still love her, that you'll make some bold, romantic gesture just in time for Valentine's Day. When the day comes and goes without even a word from you, she's going to begin to question exactly how much she means to you. You want this to happen because it means she'll start to reach out to you to get a sense of where you are emotionally.
Don't Try and Make Her Jealous on This Special Day
When your emotions are all in a knot it may seem logical to try and make your ex jealous in an effort to get her to want you back. At first thought a plan like this almost seems brilliant, doesn't it? You'll just pick a great looking girl to ask out and then you'll be sure that your ex will find out about it. Maybe you'll post about it on one of your social media sites or perhaps you'll have a mutual friend point out to your ex that you're dating someone really hot.
Any scenario like this is going to backfire and leave you in a much worse position with our ex than you are in now. The reason is very simple and straightforward. If you try and push the jealousy buttons that are within your ex girlfriend, you're going to discover that she'd rather walk away from you forever than overreact.
Once a break up occurs, neither partner really knows what the other is thinking or feeling. You often need to take time away from one another to sort through what you're feeling. If you still love your ex, you trust that they are using that time to think about whether or not they want to get back together. When one partner suddenly picks up someone else and starts dating them, the other partner can't even really process their emotions to the point of jealousy. They're hurt and it's that hurt that will pull them away from the relationship for good.
In other words, if your ex girlfriend still has any lingering feelings for you at all, and you venture forth with your plan to make her seethe with jealousy right before Valentine's Day, don't be surprised if she says goodbye to you for once and for all. This is just a risk that you shouldn't be taking if you hope to one day get back together with her.
Arrange to Bump Into Her At Some Point
Instead of focusing mainly on what you can do to get her attention on Valentine's Day, look past that towards the future. Once you feel strong emotionally, it's time to arrange a chance meeting with your ex girlfriend. Obviously, this is a tricky tactic to regain her attention, but it's also a non-threatening way to reintroduce yourself back into her life.
If you know that she stops for coffee each morning, be certain that you're there looking your best. If you know that she tends to stop at the same sandwich place every day to pick up her lunch, put an order in for yourself one day. Don't make a big deal out of the chance meeting. Just greet her warmly and ask her what she's been up to. It's important that you excuse yourself from the encounter first so it doesn't appear as though you're trying too hard to get her to engage in a conversation with you.
Once this meeting takes place, you can then start to rebuild a friendship with her at a pace that you're both comfortable with. Don't try and rush things and most of all, don't attempt to arrange this meeting on Valentine's Day. That's a crucial mistake that you just don't want to make.