A breakup usually takes one of the two partners in a relationship by surprise. If you have recently been the victim, you are wondering what you did that made your ex boyfriend stop loving you. The truth is that he is probably still in love with you, but he got tired of the battle. Having a successful relationship today is a much more difficult task than it was for your grandparents.
If you have seen any of the old television shows from the fifties, you know that they showed the woman as the one who stayed at home, cooked, cleaned and raised the children. The man was the breadwinner and came home each day with the expectation of a good meal and a loving wife and family. In the sixties all of that began to change with the pill and the women's lib movement.
Women wanted more freedom and the battle of the sexes became a full fledged war. At first men thought it was just a passing fancy and what they called the weaker sex would soon settle down and resume their former roles as homemakers. But, the phrase, “You've come a long way baby,” was here to stay and women wanted more. They were the equal to men and they were out to prove it.
The problem is that although women are equal to men, the two sexes are not the same. As well as the physical difference, their brains are wired differently and nothing can change that. The male is designed by nature to be the hunter and the female is designed to be the nester. When a woman becomes too aggressive in a relationship, the man first becomes confused and then he becomes stubborn.
When you first met your ex boyfriend, you were perfectly content to play the role that nature intended for the female and let him be the one to chase you, but once you let him catch you, things changed. While he was trying to win you, he was very attentive and wanted to spend every minute possible with you. However, when he felt sure of you, he started spending more time with his buddies.
At that point, you should have been content because as a woman you wanted to be equal and you could have went back to doing what you were doing when you first met your prince charming. You used to spend time with your girlfriends and go out with them for a good time. But, now you only wanted to be with your guy and that caused you to nag and complain about him spending time away from you.
The solution to getting your ex boyfriend back is actually very simple. Be the person you were when he first met you. Show him your independence and have a life separate from the one you have with him. That doesn't mean that you should date other men, but you can enjoy being with your friends. When he sees you being happy without him, he will feel left out and want to be part of your life again.