Not going to believe me when I tell you the following. When you're desperate to make the work you do bear fruit in a second, is likely to ruin it all. And this just happens when you try to get back with your ex!
Desperation to get your ex back? …
Well, this is the scenario. Currently suffer neglect your ex lover, for whatever reason. I bet that at least you had thoughts of calling your ex again and again until you answer your call, or Apparate in your home to discuss or even ask him to come back to you.
Unfortunately, this approach is not only desperate, it also makes your energy is wasted, you run the risk of alienating even your ex and lose a potential lover or friend. So, please stop, you stop immediately!
You and your ex should be given some space and time initially. I know it is very hard, but you have to stick to it. You redirect your attention elsewhere.
You have to put yourself in the shoes of your ex boyfriend or girlfriend now. Imagine how amazing? Was when he started a break and yet he or she is being so generous about the breakdown as follows:
“I understand what's happening, I'm sure we both need some time and space, so I agree to take a break and then we return later as friends. Though I really wanted to start a relationship after that, I still love you I truly love and I want you to be happy, even if I am not your partner anymore. ”
Eventually Cruzate in his way, as your former grants you the freedom and space for being you. Would not it be wonderful? You might even begin to wonder if you made the mistake of breaking a mature couple who feels true love.
So ask yourself honestly, do you still take care and you value him or her, even if he or she just wants your “friendship” now? In a true love relationship, the relationship with your partner will be such that you know, deep down, you still love your ex partner but both now are “just friends”.
If your answer is “No”, do not give up, as it usually is difficult for humans to achieve a minimum of jealousy. It is especially difficult for you, because the basis of pain for breaking up with your ex increases with rejection. It is your ego that is being beaten.
You feel desperate to win back your ex? Calm is the key to avoid mistakes
Now, recognize acts of true love and emotional rejection by the rupture. You must be objective. Do you want your ex back because you will not hurt you and you want to feel loved? Or do you really think he or she is the right person for you and you really feel love for him or her?
Let go of your ego and work harder to eliminate your emotional barriers and lean to the actions of true love if you really love him or her. Accept the person as a whole may be just what your ex needs to be assured that back to you.
This approach of unconditional love can take longer to get your ex back to a romantic relationship. However, in any situation, it can facilitate the transition from the break for both.
And definitely keep in some kind of positive relationship with your ex, even if that relationship right now is not naturally romantic.