A breakup doesn't stop most women from still being in love with the man who got away, instead it seems to make the man more desireable. If you are one of these women, you have been driving your friends and family crazy asking for their advice. Of course they are not going to tell you it was your fault, so the man you love becomes the one at fault and they tell you to let him go and forget him.
But, that is not what you want to hear and you go chasing after your guy. In the process of trying to get your ex boyfriend back, you are showing him the worst side of your personality. He sees a woman who is needy, weak and will sacrifice her pride and dignity to get what you want. What is so strange about the whole mess is that your friends were giving you good advice. To get your ex back, you have to let him go.
This might make you stop reading because I am sure it is not what you want to hear, but I didn't say you had to forget your guy or lose him for good. You just have to let him go for a short period of time. While I'm at it, I'll tell you something else you won't be happy with. You are the one who is keeping your ex from coming back because as long as you keep pushing him, he is going to pull farther and farther away.
If you have been reading articles and books on getting your ex back, you have run across the term male psychology. If you are like many women, you didn't read what was said about it because you thought it was too complicated. That was another mistake. However, it is not too late to change what you are doing and make your ex boyfriend not only desire you again, but be the one chasing you.
You should already know that you and your ex boyfriend think differently, but at the time of a breakup, it's not so different. For instance, if you had broken up with your guy and he came running after you, what would you do? You would love to see him crawl and that would make you pretend to ignore him. Isn't that what is happening to you? As long as he knows you want him back, he is not worried about losing you.
Using male psychology is simply giving your ex boyfriend an incentive to chase you again. If he is still in love with you, the best incentive would be to make him think he is losing you. However if you are always around, he will not be afraid of that happening. That should tell you to stop hanging around and make yourself scarce. Men react pretty fast when they think they are about to lose something they value and as soon as you are no longer around, he will be looking for you.
If you take a minute to think of it, this is the same way you attracted your ex boyfriend to begin with. But when a breakup happens, women forget to use their natural lure and start acting like a man. If you want your ex back, be the woman you are and if he loves you, he will be back telling you he is sorry to have hurt you.