The human mind works in strange ways. If something is plentiful you take it for granted and get tired of it. But if something is scarce, you may find yourself wanting it. If what you want is kept away from you, you could become addicted to it and do almost anything to get it. This is the reason you are so desperate to get your ex boyfriend back. You are addicted to him and afraid you will never feel him in your arms again.
This is normal and nearly every woman who is dumped follows the same pattern. It seems logical that if you could just get your ex boyfriend to talk to you, it would be easy to work out your problems. However, your ex boyfriend won't communicate with you and that drives you crazy. You try harder to make him talk to you and he pulls farther away because men do not want to be around a woman who is always crying and acting desperate.
But, you are afraid to leave him alone for too long because you are afraid he will forget you and find someone else. All of these thoughts are going through your mind because you are emotionally upset and not thinking clearly. If you have been chasing your ex boyfriend relentlessly and flooding him with text messages and phone calls, it is time to take a step back and look at yourself.
When you look in the mirror, what do you see? Is it a woman with red eyes from crying, your hair pulled back in a pony tail and wearing a sweatshirt and jeans? Was this the way you looked when your ex first met you? Did you throw yourself at him screaming that you can't live without him? Of course you didn't do any of this. You always tried to look your best and acted like you hardly noticed him.
You were so attractive and seemed so unavailable that your ex boyfriend picked you out of the crowd and wanted to see more of you. But, he was the one who did the chasing at that time and you stayed just out of his reach for a while. Thinking he couldn't have you, made your ex addicted to you and he couldn't get enough of you.Then you let him catch you and you fell head over heels in love with him. You tried to please him in every way, yet he dumped you.
If you want to get your ex boyfriend addicted to you again, this should tell you what you will have to do. First of all you have to leave him alone and act like he no longer exists. While you are doing this get yourself to looking good again. Get a new hair style and some hot new clothes. Go out with your friends and show him you don't need him to have a good time.
When he sees you looking so great again and appearing unavailable, you will both be back where you started. He will be attracted to you again and if you stay a little out of his reach and keep him guessing your ex boyfriend will become addicted to you again.