It is extremely difficult for someone to be all over single again after breaking-up a relationship which lasted for many years. One needs a soft corner and a reliable partner so that the practical and emotional needs can be met effectively. It is better to look for a new partner after the past relationship gets over as it brings lot of happiness and eradicates the negative vibes from one's life permanently. A person should be motivated to share the feelings and concerns with the new person. Though the intimacy takes time to develop but unless the partner comes in, this would not be possible.
It gets difficult to choose a new person as one always compare the past with the present which restricts one to get involved totally in the new relationship. The pleasure as well as excitement of meeting a new partner must not fade away as this is important for a person to overcome the grievances of the past. Feeling of comfort do not arise in a person easily whose had bad experiences in forming relationships. This aspect must be worked out efficiently. New partner is a must so that one feels nurtured and pampered all over again. Making adjustments is an integral part of any relationship and also results in strengthening the relation. One can make use of the past skills in maintaining any new and present relationship. One is well-versed in knowing the ways of communicating with a new person and compromising certain things for the fulfillment of his/her needs.
Before finding another partner, one must assess the past experience and relationship. One gets to learn from the past so that the present and future turns out to be perfect. Flush out the anger, shock or sadness before starting a new relationship so that one only feels happiness. Spending time with near and dear friends would give access to meeting the old ones and analyzing the suitable match. New relation would bring back the self-esteem and confidence of a person who has been a part of the setback. It is important to go out and meet different people so that the right person can be chosen for a new relationship. Be with individuals who share similar priorities and interests like you.
One must feel excited when meeting and dating new people. This will boost the morale and help one overcome the past memories. One must engage in some exciting conversations and share good experiences so that being in a new company fascinates the person. The urge of transforming oneself and indulging in all together a new relation comes with time and by spending quality hours with people and friends around you.