After a breakup, you will usually have one thing in mind and that is to get your ex boyfriend back. But, there is much more to it than that. You want to save the relationship that you thought was so solid before the trouble started. So how do you make your ex see the breakup was a mistake? What will bring him back into your arms and cause him tell you he loves you more than ever? Use these effective tips to get things going your way.
First you have to recognize there was a problem. If nothing had been wrong in the relationship, you would still be together. The best way to solve a problem is to first know what the problem is. You might be blaming yourself for the breakup, but it might not be your fault at all. Perhaps your relationship was based on the wrong things and you and your ex boyfriend only have a physical attraction.
A lasting relationship must be based on deeper reasons than sex. Sure, there has to be compatibility there too, but most of the time you spend together, there is no sex involved. What about that time? Are you compatible then ? Do you enjoy doing the same things, and sometimes just sit and enjoy being together without speaking a word?
If after some deep inspection of the relationship, you find there was compatibility and you think of some things you did wrong and how you can correct them, you can probably save your relationship. However you can't just call your ex boyfriend, tell him you know the problem and how to fix it. Before you see your ex boyfriend or talk to him, you must be sure you are ready to knock him off his feet.
If you made mistakes that drove the man you love away, he still has that image of you in his mind. This is not the same image he had when he fell in love with you. The breakup has probably had an effect on your appearance and your personality. Where you once were dressed and groomed to perfection, you now look sloppy, red eyed from crying and give off an air of depression.
To get your ex back, you have to look your best the next time you see him. You have to radiate the self confidence you had when he met you. This will not be easy, but if you want your guy back, you will have to do it. Once you get yourself in the shape you want to be, get some friends together and go out on the town. Make sure you stop off at the places your ex hangs out and let him get a good look at you.
Your ex boyfriend might only need this one look to remember how much he has been missing you. He might want to talk to you about getting back together right away, or it might take a little more work. There are many ways to use male psychology to push a man's hot buttons. All you have to do is learn how to use this technique and you can get your ex boyfriend back for good.