Now days, you can't be too careful in your relationships. A cheating spouse or partner can bring you disease, financial ruin, and emotional stress. If you have children it is even worse because it also threatens their safety as well.
What should you do if you suspect a cheating spouse or partner? Here are the top 5 ways to find out if you better-half is really better.
#1 Set a Trap – One of the most common times for a partner to cheat is when you are out of town so tell your significant other that you have to go away for a few days then rent a local Motel room–make sure you can park your car out of sight–rent a car and then discreetly watch to see what happens.
Things to Be Aware Of: If he or she isn't cheating, you need to make sure you aren't caught spying or else your relationship will only get worse. Don't tell anyone at all about your plan. Remember there are “little birdies” everywhere.
#2 Monitor His or Her Cell phone – If spending an entire week end playing private eye seems too much the for as little as $39 you can get cell phone spy software that you can install on your spouse's phone which will show you all of the activity on the phone. It will also let you know the phone's location at all times. This is probably the surest way, short of hiring a private investigator, to find out the truth.
Things to Be Aware of: Cell phone spy software is only legal if you are named on the phone services contract. If you have no ownership of your partner's phone–if it is your spouse, you are covered–it could be illegal in your state to put this software on their phone. You could face serious charges.
#3 Create a fake profile – You can create a fake profile online and friend him or her to see if they take the bait. You need to know your partner pretty well to do this. With guys it is easier, but if you are trying this on a woman, you'd better understand women well. They don't respond to the same things a man does.
Things to Be Aware of: You have to be subtle with this one and it takes a lot longer to develop.
#4 Get someone to hit on them and see how they react – This is the most risky. It is hard to say how you will feel if your partner takes the bait. Even if the person you asked to do it is your friend it could result in unexpected feelings of resentment toward your friend.
Things to Be Aware of: It may be hard to find someone to do this for you and if they do, make sure that they have a recording device with them so that you can hear the objective truth about how they reacted.
#5 Trust Your Gut – If you are suspecting cheating and you have no history of paranoia in the area of relationships, trust your gut. If there are no children involved or financial entanglements, you might want to just call it quits on the relationship and find one where there is more trust. Obviously, there are certain actions your partner is taking that is making you feel insecure–assuming you are not just an insecure person to begin with.
If there are kids involved and possible financial problems ahead then get the cell phone spy software so that you will have documentation on everything. Once the mud hits that fan, you'll need your ducks in a row.