Your boyfriend might have dumped you, but you don't have to let your obsession with getting him back cause you to lose your dignity. In fact, showing yourself in tears with eyes red from not sleeping will only push him farther away. You have to treat this period in your life the same as you would any other unpleasant experience. Make the best of it and do the intelligent things to make it right again.
First of all, you have to recognize that he is no longer your boyfriend and stop hounding him. This doesn't mean you are going to stop trying to get him back altogether, you are just going to go about it in a smarter way. You will be using male psychology to get inside his head and make him obsessed with you like he was when he first met you. He will become the one who is desperate to get his ex back.
By getting inside his head and shaping his thinking, you will be the one in control. You will push his emotional hot buttons to the limit and your ex boyfriend will forget his pride and ego in an effort to get you back into his arms. It will be him that will feel he cannot live without you. This won't be easy for you, but the rewards will be great, you will be getting back the man you love.
The first step will be to walk away from your ex boyfriend, just as he walked away from you. You will have to ignore him and have no contact in any way with him for at least four weeks. If you are worried about him forgetting you, the opposite will happen. When you suddenly let him go he will wonder why you stopped wanting him. You will begin to shape his thinking and his mind will be filled with thoughts of you.
When a woman is desperate and chases a man it makes her unattractive to him. But, a woman is flattered when a man becomes desperate and chases her. This is all psychology and in your genes. For centuries the male has chased the female. When the female starts to chase the male, your roles become reversed and causes confusion. By making your ex chase you again you are putting your roles in the correct order.
Another part of male psychology is, men fall in love from a distance. When you take yourself out of his life, he will start remembering the good things about you and be sorry for the breakup. He will realize how much he still loves you and begin to miss you like crazy. Soon he will want to see you and talk to you again because his emotional hot buttons have been pushed to the limit.
If he begins to text or send emails, don't be too hasty to answer them. Remember how playing hard to get made him chase you when the two of you first met? The same tactics will work again and you can get your ex boyfriend back without losing your dignity.