Your ex girlfriend won't talk to you. That seems like a really horrible thing, doesn't it? You're panicked because you believe it means that she's done with you, she's over the break up and she's moving on. There's a very slim chance that's exactly what's happening, but it's highly unlikely. What tends to happen to a woman after a break up is she shuts down emotionally and pulls back. She needs space and time to think about what's happened and that means she stops talking to her ex. So even though you wish more than anything that she'd pick up the phone and text or call you right now, you have to see the value in her not responding to you. You can actually use her silence as a tool in your quest to get her to love you again. The trick is that you need to have the insight to understand her needs and anticipate them before you take any action at all.
Contact between exes can be a bad thing after a break up. You may think that the way to get your ex girlfriend back is to talk to her, but right now that may actually be one of the most dangerous things you can do. The reason is very simple. You're both dealing with some pretty significant emotions at the moment and if you don't give her time to cool down, you may say or do something that will result in permanent damage and the connection will die forever.
A good example is the guy who tries in vain to get his ex back by sending her flowers, chocolates, or small gifts. In addition he camps outside her house in his car waiting for her to come out to go to work so that he can convince her that the break up was a bad idea.
The number one mistake this guy is making is that he's not respecting his girlfriend at all. He's not listening to the silent and subtle clues she's sending that are telling him she needs him to back off. Instead, he's following his own heart and in doing so is alienating her for good.
Not talking to your ex girlfriend for a few weeks may actually be the best way to show her that you still care. You're pushing your own needs aside and instead you're giving her exactly what she wants and needs. That speaks to true love more than anything else you could possibly do.
Work towards a platonic friendship in time. One of the most effective ways to get back in your ex girlfriend's good graces is to become a caring and supportive friend to her. Obviously that's not the end goal you're shooting for, but you have to see it as a journey. If you can build a strong and steady friendship with your ex, you'll have many opportunities to demonstrate to her that you're someone she cal always depend on. While this is all happening, she'll begin to remember the good times you two shared in the past and the romance will be reborn.
It's important that you don't attempt to begin any relationship with her too soon though. Once it's been a few weeks and she's had some time, call her up just to see how she is. If she's unresponsive, don't push at this point. Just leave a message saying you're moving forward and wanted to just touch base. This is non-threatening in an emotional sense and it's also a good way to show her that you don't harbor any negative feelings about the break up.
If you still haven't made any progress with her after a few weeks, it's best to just leave things alone. Most women do seek out a friendship with their exes so you can expect to hear from her when she's ready. Until that point, live your life and enjoy yourself.
Let her know that you'll always be there for her. All women want and desire a man they can count on regardless of the situation. Your ex girlfriend needs to know that you're that man before she can even consider getting back together with you. That's why you need to make it clear to her that you're there for her and that you will do anything she asks or needs.
The best way to get this point across is to tell her directly. Just say that you realize that you can't erase your past mistakes but you've learned from them and you're looking towards the future and that includes being a good and trusted friend for her. If she won't answer your call, send this message in an email or text and end it by saying she knows where you are if she needs you. She will likely need you an when she does contact you, you'll rest assured in knowing that she sees how responsible and mature you are.