The breakup was very painful, however you were hoping your ex boyfriend and you could remain friends, but then you learn that he is refusing have any contact with you what-so-ever. This can make you panic because if you can't stay close to him he may forget you and find someone else. In this state of panic you can cause your ex see you as pushy and controlling and to be happy that he dumped you. Furthermore he will vow to never speak to you again.
You might think that not being able to contact your ex boyfriend is more than you can stand, but actually it can help you get your ex back. As long as you can't contact your ex, you won't be making mistakes that could end your relationship forever. After a while you will start feeling more calm and soon have your emotions under control. When this happens you will not have the uncontrollable urge to text or call your ex boyfriend.
You may not realize it, but by repeatedly rejecting you, your ex boyfriend has forced you to use the no contact rule on him and that will confuse him. Although he kept rejecting you, your ex was expecting you to run after him and beg. He needs you to lose your pride and dignity because it feeds his ego. The man you love will find that his plans are being upset, but he will becoming aware of something else.
Your ex boyfriend will be getting a taste of what his life is like without you. This can come as a shock because he has become so accustomed to sending you a text or calling anytime he wishes. Absence makes the heart grow fonder may be an old saying, but it's true and it is especially true with men because they fall in love from a distance.
As a woman you want your man close because it makes you feel secure, but too much closeness can make a man bored and he will take you for granted. By being away and not knowing what you are doing, your ex boyfriend can see how big a void your absence as created in his life. Suddenly he will see how much he misses you and that you are the only woman for him.
To be able to stay away from your ex boyfriend, you can't be sitting at home and feeling sorry for yourself. To cause him to become desperate to get you back, you need to show him that you can be fine without him. The easiest way to do that is by finding other interests. You can take extra classes or do volunteer work in your spare time. Make sure you stay busy and try not think of your ex boyfriend anymore than possible.
Before long your ex will have the uncontrollable urge to contact you. This is what you have been hoping for, but you have to be careful. If you appear too anxious, he will wonder why he ever thought he might lose you and pull away again. You have developed other interests, so it should be easy to act busy for a while, until he is ready to beg you to take him back.