You found the right guy and he started dating you and everything was beautiful. You were in love and he said he was in love with you. Then for some reason he started missing dates, wouldn't answer your text and now you think you might have lost your guy for good. You feel as if your world has fallen apart and life is meaningless without him. All you can think of is getting your guy back.
There can be many reasons for a guy to breakup with a girl. He could be bored with the same dull routine. You hang out with the same people and go to the same old places. He knows there is another world out there, but you are content with the same routine. Another reason for a guy to split is feeling smothered. If you take the first letter off the word smothered, you have mothered and they are practically the same thing.
Trying to do too much for a guy will cause him to feel controlled. He wants a girlfriend, not another mother. One who has her own personality and her own likes and dislikes. You were that kind of girl when he met you and that is what attracted him to you. Now he is wondering where that girl went, or if you were deceiving him and was not as carefree and independent as you appeared to be.
One of the reasons you are so desperate to get your guy back is because you think he will soon be looking for another girlfriend. You are right, he probably will, but the girl in his mind will always be the one he fell in love with – the girl he thought you were. The tragedy of this whole mess is, you are the same girl he fell in love with. However, you fell so deeply in love that girl got lost.
Your guy is probably just as unhappy as you are. He has lost the one he loves and wants her back too. But, the girl who keeps sending text by the dozen and calls in the middle of the night screaming and crying is not the girl he fell in love with. To get your guy back, you have to get yourself back. Stop badgering your guy and start working on yourself.
You might need to get away for a while. Take a mini – vacation or visit relatives who live in another state. While you're away, do some shopping for new clothes and get a new hairstyle. Make a promise to yourself that when you get back home, you will not text or call your guy. However you can have contact with him, but only if you are sure that you have your emotions in check.
The contact you will have with your guy, will be fleeting, but should spark his interest in you again. It will work this way. Get dressed in your new clothes and go out with friend's to a place your guy hangs out. When you see him, give him a big smile, but don't hang around and get into a conversation. Just let him see you the way you were when he first met you, then leave. That should make him want to see more and your guy will take things from there.