Perhaps the hardest thing to take after a breakup is having your ex boyfriend keep rejecting you. He won't answer your text or emails and refuses to take your phone calls. This causes you to become more desperate and you lose your pride and dignity by begging him to love you again. You know this is not what you should be doing, but you can't keep yourself from doing it.
When you think that you have found the man of your dreams and then see those dreams turn to ashes it becomes a very bitter pill to swallow. Your feel unwanted and this lessens your self respect. But have you taken the time to think of why your ex boyfriend is rejecting you? The answer is that he knows as long as he keeps you chasing him, you won't be dating anyone else.
That puts him in a very good position. He can go out and have fun and maybe even date other girls without any fear of losing you. In other words you are being held captive by your love for your ex boyfriend. You sit at home or go cry on your girlfriend's shoulders an that's exactly what he wants you to be doing. By doing that you become his safety net and you will be there to catch him when he falls.
All of this is a psychological game your ex is playing. He is pushing the right emotional hot buttons to keep you wanting him, but not letting you close enough to have him. He knows that the more he ignores you, the more you will want him. So you have to take a minute and think. Do you really want a man who can treat you so badly? There are more men in the world, you know.
You probably will agree that there are other men who would treat you better, but you don't want them. You want your ex boyfriend. If that's the case, you have to start pushing his emotional hot buttons in the same way he is pushing yours. You have to start rejecting him. Once you make up your mind to stop being a door mat that he will continue wiping his feet on, you will be on your way to getting your ex back.
You have to believe that you are the best thing that has ever happened to him and he is lucky to have you. When you can believe that, you will no longer run after him and tell him you can't live without him. The fact that you can ignore him and go on with your life will cause your ex to automatically take notice of you. Your new attitude will push his emotional hot buttons and cause his attitude toward you to change.
Your ex boyfriend will stop taking you for granted and feel challenged. He will be the one who is now feeling rejected and being a male, the only thing he can do is begin chasing you again.