In a perfect world, the person you choose to spend the rest of your life with will only have eyes for you at all times. Unfortunately, we do not live in a perfect world. It is the messiness in the world though that can lead to some of the greatest discoveries about ourselves and our fellow man.
Your cheating ex may have left you devastated and even robbed you of more than a little bit of your self esteem. But, the fact that your ex cheated on you does not necessarily mean the relationship must end. In fact, it can be the perfect “wake up” call for many relationships that will ultimately bring the two of you closer together than ever before.
Of course, if you do find it in your heart to extend a second chance to your cheating ex you'll want to make every effort to be certain you don't have to go through this gut wrenching and painful experience again. So, what can you do to make sure that your cheating ex will be faithful only to you this time around?
Talk Things Through
You have to communicate well and communicate often if you want your relationship to enjoy steady growth. More importantly, you've gotta know what's on your mind and the mind of your partner if you're going to continue to have any real relationship at all.
The only way to maintain a certain level of closeness in a relationship is to actually carry on conversations. Talk about any and every teeny tiny little thing that is important to you and listen as your partner does the same.
Make the First Move
There will continue to be moments of awkwardness between the two of you as you feel your way around the relationship once more. Bridge the gap and make the first move. Keep making the first move until things begin to feel natural between the two of you again.
One word of caution though. Never take your partner for granted. Your ex may have cheated but far too often cheating is a reaction to a feeling of isolation, loneliness, and being taken for granted. Don't let this ruin your relationship for a second time when it is so easily preventable.
Learn to Appreciate the Little Things
You don't have to take cruises to the Bahamas Islands, tours of Europe, or even expensive dinners out on the town in order to have a love that is richer than Midas. But, you cannot have that love, even if you have all the things above, if you don't love to appreciate even the little things your partner does for you.