Having your boyfriend breakup with you hurts enough, but then when he ignores your text, emails and phone calls as well you almost go crazy. It feels like he wants to shut you out of his life completely. This is the man who said he would love you forever. Now he won't even discuss what went wrong with your relationship. So how can you ever get your ex back?
The first thing you have to do is stop thinking of yourself and look at how your ex boyfriend feels. Something caused him to breakup with you and he might be hurting as badly as you. The fact that your ex is ignoring you and won't have any contact with you doesn't mean he no longer cares for you. He wants to appear carefree, but it may all be away of covering up his pain.
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When two people are in love, it doesn't end overnight. You are probably remembering the good times you shared together and he is doing the same. Your ex boyfriend might be aching to have you back in his arms, but men are different than women when it comes to showing emotion. Your ex has his pride and so-called macho image to protect, which keeps him from just coming back and saying h is sorry.
All of this means one thing – you have to make it easy for your ex boyfriend to show you he wants you back. You can't do that by continually being in his face. When you are pushing him so hard, he doesn't have time to regret the breakup because he is too busy dodging you. If you want to get your ex back, you have to stop pushing him away and do things that will pull him back.
What are the things that will pull your ex boyfriend back? The biggest two are making him miss you and want you back in his life again. If you stop running after him and telling him you can't live without him, you will immediately be a void in his life. He will have time to think and see how crappy his life can be without you. This will never happen as long as you stay close to him.
Another thing you will be doing when you stop having contact with your ex boyfriend is taking away his security or safety net. He won't have you to fall back on if he finds out the breakup was a mistake. The less you let him know about what you are doing, the more curious your ex will become. That will make him come looking for you and he won't be ignoring you anymore.
When you make him realize that you can live without him, you become more attractive to your ex boyfriend. He is not so sure of you anymore and he might feel that you are ignoring him. When you get your ex boyfriend back by making him come after you, your new relationship will be more solid. If you chase him until he finally gives in, he may always be looking for a chance to escape again.