When you have had your heartbroken because of a breakup with your boyfriend, it is easy to imagine all sorts of things being the cause. But no matter what made him lose his desire for you, if you are still in love with him you want him back. However if he is ignoring you and refuses to talk about the problem, getting your ex back could seem to be impossible.
You might have noticed your ex growing more and more distant and thought he just had something on his mind. You never thought that what he was thinking about was the best way to breakup with you. Men do not like confrontation and they hate to see a woman cry. So, if he told you he needed a break or some space, it was his way of trying to make the split as easy as possible.
But, no matter how he did it or what words he used, the breakup is just as painful. But, you have to get control of your emotions and not accuse him of ruining your life. The more you scream at him, the harder it will be to erase the image of you as a wild eyed and out of control woman from his mind. At this time the image he has of you is very important. In fact it could be the difference in getting your ex back or losing him for good.
When he first met you, the image you gave him was of a happy, pretty and self confident woman. Then you fell in love with him and wanted to make sure that he would be your guy for good. That caused you to want a commitment from him. When he didn't respond, you started to nag and pressure him. This tactic began to make him feel that if you were such a demanding person now, it would be even worse once you were married. The image he now had of you was of a needy and desperate woman.
In order to get your ex boyfriend back, you have to create the image of the strong, happy and self reliant woman in his mind again. You have to push his emotional hot buttons hard enough to erase the old image of being needy and desperate with the new one.This requires you to get inside his head and direct his thinking. How can you do that? By using male psychology.
Since one of the uses of male psychology is making a man feel you do not care for him, you have to stop running after your ex and telling him you love him. To show him the happy woman he first met, you need to be seen out with your friends having a good time. Appearing to be moving on and making a life without him will give you the self reliant appearance again.
When the man who broke up with you observes you this way, his image of you will begin to change to the positive. He will wonder how he could ever have thought of you being needy and desperate. Your ex boyfriend will be kicking himself all over town for letting you go. The only thing on his mind now will be the image of the woman he fell in love with and how to get her back.